The 3 Most Important Traits That Enable You To Become An Alpha Male
There are three gages that enable you cultivate and increase your Authentic Male Power and become an Alpha Male.
Think of them like dials on an amplifier. When you increase the tone on any one of those dials it will impact the other two dial’s tone, while also changing the output from your Authentic Male Power in a positive way. Those three dials are:
- Vision and Purpose.
I’m going to give you a brief overview now of what each dial does. In the ReMasculation™ E-Mail Training, I will also break its different parts down and give you a list of suggestions to improve that dial’s benefit to you and your Authentic Male Power.
Dial #1: Self-Esteem
Self-esteem works for your mind and emotions similar to how your immune system protects your body from disease. In fact I call self-esteem, “the immune system of your soul.”
When your self-esteem is high it protects you from mental, emotional and psychological suffering that external circumstances attempt to impose. For instance if a woman rejects your request for her phone number (a potentially negative external circumstance); with a high self-esteem you wouldn’t question your value as a person. You’d simply move on and think nothing of it. If you had a low self-esteem, that same rejection could devastate you emotionally for days.
Dial #2: Masculinity
Masculinity has two parts. The first is our natural genetic emphasis on three things: Defend, Breed and Feed. These are biological predispositions.
We defend what is ours (or attack to get what we want).
We initiate sex (it’s our duty to approach a woman and it is us who penetrates her).
We feed our family (think of ancient times where the men went out and killed a buffalo for the tribe).
Notice how I said Masculinity is our natural genetic emphasis. I did not say those traits are exclusive to men. Woman can demonstrate those same characteristics, yet they are wired into us as a higher ratio in the core of our being. In the ReMasculation™ E-Mail Training, I will take you far beyond these three instincts and show you a higher version of what masculinity actually is.
Dial #3: Vision & Purpose
In the song Era Vulgaris, Queens of The Stone Age sang, “I play a game till I’m dead, or on a magazine.”
Vision & Purpose is more than having a list of goals. It’s a deep-seeded understanding of what you’re meant to do with your life. It’s your ability to say, “This is what is important for me in my life. This is where I’m going. Here’s how I’m going to get there. I’m doing it, that’s it, period. If anything attempts to stop me, I will either beat it, or die trying.”
It’s said the most wealthiest place on Earth is the graveyard because that’s where so many ideas are buried that never became real. Ask 100 men at random what their life’s purpose is and see how few give you a solid answer. Hell, ask them what their goals are for the next 90 days and the result is basically the same.
Such a small percentage of men know what makes them “tick.” They’re just going along to get along, and will die having never pursued something that was meaningful to their spiritual development.
The man who knows what he wants, and actively pursues it, is attractive to the people – not just women – he’s attractive to any person he comes in contact with. Vision and purpose is critical to you success and I’ll show you some simple methods for locking it into your life.
The Art Of Full Volume Living
In Bangkok, Thailand there was a large clay statue of Buddha that fell on the floor while the monks were trying to transport it. A crack on the side revealed gold under the clay. It turns out the Buddha was not made of clay. It was actually made from 5.5 tons (5,500 kilograms) of pure gold.
When you AMPlify your Self-Esteem, Masculinity and Vision/Purpose, what you’re really doing is expressing the truest version of your Self. You’re allowing the most authentic version of YOU to come to the surface. That’s what you present to the world. It’s your most attractive, bright and valuable Self. In less than 3 seconds of being in your presence, a woman will feel something inside themselves they can’t explain. They just know: “This guy is different from the others, and I want to be around him because he makes me feel safe.” Women don’t feel those feelings when you’re doing cheesy pick-up tactics, they feel those feelings when you’re being your most authentic, powerful self.
Which Alpha Male Trait Are You Lacking In?
The easiest way to solve a problem is to define what causes it to occur in the first place. I’ve found by simply defining which external forces cause men to have poor Game is the only “therapy” required to solve their relationship issues. They become aware of the problem and for some reason that awareness is all they needed to overcome their challenges.
The only reason it persisted was because they wouldn’t face it.
So, before we dive deep into the three parts of Authentic Male Power (Self Esteem, Masculinity & Vision/Purpose), I want to expand on some of the main factors that cause relationship “blocks”.
I’ll define the main dating and relationship challenges males (on average) experience. I’ll also dive deep into what causes those challenges.
Think of this as a self-diagnosis tool. Meaning, as you read on, do your best to reflect on what you hear, and then see which examples apply to your situation.
The more aware you are of your specific challenges the faster you can tailor my strategies in later chapters to solve them.
Following The Followers
Bob is the manager at an auto manufacturing plant. Every morning as he walks on the main street of his town. He sets the time on his wristwatch to a large grandfather clock resting in the window in the clockmaker’s shop. When 4:59PM rolls around, Bob waits until his wristwatch hits 5PM and pulls the steam whistle for the workers to go home. Bob does this same routine every weekday for 20 years.
One morning the clockmaker is outside sweeping the sidewalk in front of the shop. The clockmaker looks at Bob as he approaches and says; “ For the last twenty years I’ve seen you set your wristwatch to my grandfather clock in my window.” Bob replies, “Certainly. I work over at the car plant and need to make sure I blow that steam whistle precisely at 5PM to let our employees out.”
“Well that’s interesting,” the clockmaker says, “Every evening at 5PM for the last twenty years, I’ve set my grandfather clock to the sound of that steam whistle.”
Your Enemy Is Your Conformity
I recently saw a video of a social experiment that illustrates the power of conformity. A woman walks into a doctor’s office for her appointment. When she arrives there are seven people (all of whom are in on the experiment) sitting in the waiting area sitting in silence.
Less than a minute past her arrival, a bell rings and the seven people stand up in unison without saying a word. The woman looks perplexed. Another bell rings about ten seconds later and the seven people sit down. No one says anything. No one looks at each other. A few moments later the bell rings again and the seven people stand and look as if nothing is unusual. Again, the woman stares in disbelief. Her motions back and forth, hesitating between whether she should stand or remain seated.
The second bell rings. Everyone sits. The woman looks relieved. Finally… One of the seven people gets called into the doctor’s office for their appointment. Now there’s six people sitting down, plus the woman.
The bell rings. This time the woman stands. The video zooms to the expression on her face, which looks awkward and a little embarrassed. You can tell, the woman doesn’t know why she’s standing. The second bell rings and the whole group sits. Another person is called into the doctor’s office. The cycle of standing and sitting continues until the woman is the only person in the waiting room. The bell rings and the woman stands all by herself.
Breaking Free From Conformity
Humans – both men and women – are biologically wired to conform to The Group. In his song Working Class Hero, John Lennon voiced, “You think you’re so clever, classless and free. But you’re still fucking peasants as far as I can see.”
Lennon’s words may sound harsh and condescending, yet how many people go to college strictly on the basis that their parents told them to?
How many married couples want to divorce yet stay together because they don’t want to tell their friends and family?
How many men remain in careers they hate for fear their coworkers won’t accept their new course of action?
The number of people through the course of history who’ve compromised their wants due to social conformity is in the billions.
Even NASA isn’t immune to conformity. In her book, “The Challenger Launch Decision,” Diane Vaughan defines a term called normalization of deviance (aka “smart person conformity”). She said normalization of deviance is: “The gradual process through which unacceptable practices or standards become acceptable. As the deviant behavior is repeated without catastrophic results, it becomes the social norm for the organization.”
Being prone to conform to others doesn’t have to be a bad thing. While in pursuit of Absolute Freedom From Social Influence (in capital letters) we can conform to people achieving the things we want for ourselves. You may have heard the phrase used in regard to money: “your net worth is the equivalent to the average of your 5 closest associates.”
From what I’ve noticed personally that is a fairly accurate statement. The principle also transcends money and applies to dating, relationships and seduction too. It’s a type of positive conformity that enables you to get what you want. If the majority of your friends, associates or mentors are guys who aren’t effective at seduction, then you’ll model their ineffectiveness.
It’s like Bob and the Clockmaker; the woman in the waiting room; John Lennon’s peasants, and the people who designed NASA’s Challenger… Inevitably, you’ll end up with results you don’t want.
In addition, if you’re surrounding yourself with guys who aren’t effective with women, often they’re jealous when you do start to improve your game. To be clear: I’m not saying to dump all your friends. I’m saying to make sure the people you surround yourself are supportive and want to see you win.
Likewise, you should have their back too. The more positive energy you place into the idea “guys like me get the type women we want,” the more normal (and real) those experiences become.
Forms Of Media Emasculation
"If You're Nice, Eventually She’ll Like You"
A Nice Guy with a steady job falls in love with a sexy woman who’s clearly out of his league. He showers her with gifts and compliments. They spend a lot of time together sharing laughs, walking on the beach and talking in jazz bars.
Nice Guy attempts to kiss Sexy Woman but she pulls back and says: “I just want to be friends.” Rejected and dismayed, Nice Guy acts like it’s totally cool and he understands.
Sexy woman meets nice guy’s boss, Mr. Douche, who invites her to his house. Mr. Douche seduces her and they begin a relationship.
Not too long after, Mr. Douche proposes to Sexy Woman, to which she accepts. Nice guy and Sexy Woman get in an argument about her decision. They part ways, yet both miss each other. Sad music plays while each looks at pictures of the past. Nice guy shows up at wedding reception and delivers a speech about why Sexy Women should not take on the Douche last name. She breaks off the wedding and marries Nice Guy. The End.
We’ve all seen that movie before, haven’t we? It’s the pop culture equivalent to those mass produced homes that engulf farmland in urban sprawls; a type of Hollywood script formula that puts butts into seats at movie theaters near you with reliable consistency…
And men start believing that garbage is how to achieve their objectives with women. As my grandfather used to say to me: “How’s that working out for you so far?”
Popular media and pop culture demonstrates that nice guys can win women’s love if you’ll just hang around and do special favors for them over a long enough period of time. This simply is not the case because attraction is automatic. A Woman doesn’t use her conscious mind to figure out whether she’s attracted to a guy or not. She automatically feels attraction when a guy matches her idea of how attractive guys should behave. If you think you can “nice guy” your way into a woman’s pants or heart, you will be sadly mistaken.
"If You’re Successfull, Eventually she’ll Like You."
In addition, what you may have heard about the topic of dating and seduction so far (e.g. from your friends or maybe even from flirt guides, from seduction, relationship, or pick-up-coaches, and so-on…) is that the most important characteristics women are attracted to are things like being cool; having a fresh personality; being the most popular guy in school; being the most successful guy in your job; and the best case scenario; having a shiny car and the latest technical gadgets.
Movies, social media, and commercials suggest it’s important to “become successful” if you want to impress women. I.e. get good schooling, have a secure job in one of the so called premium companies, show regular income and financial stability overall.
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"Dating & Seduction Is Hard Work."
A common teaching that pick-up students receive from their gurus is to have a regiment for approaching women. They learn they should be “approaching a XYZ number of women each day and attempt to get their phone numbers.”
This isn’t necessarily bad advice, yet it can morph into a dangerous exercise because that type of pressure leads (on average, for most guys) to subconsciously thinking it will be hard to date women; that seduction is associated with hard work and labor; that what you want from women is something they don’t want to give to you voluntarily. Then they internalize, without being conscious of it, seduction is NO FUN.
They may also internalize that it is no fun to learn the flirting dance as part of their lifestyle and natural expression of their authentic personality as something natural and pleasant. The objective is to integrate flirting into your life and learn to practice the art. In addition, if they fail to reach that arbitrary number of people they set to meet with, they begin to feel like they’re constantly failing which negatively affects their self-esteem.
Then you’ll realize women are enjoying themselves in your presence more which creates a positive experience for you to remember and make a part of your Self. For most guys The pick-up “machine” results in knocking the fun of playing the game by making it a chore.